Depressive Illness: The Curse Of The Strong by Tim Cantopher
GENRE: Non-Fiction | PAGES: 128
My rating: ★★★★★
I read Depressive Illness: The Curse Of The Strong in bursts. Every time I picked it up, it presented me with a gift. I feel like I’ve done myself a huge favour simply for having read it. The author and doctor, Tim Cantopher, has a brilliant no-nonsense voice, and more to the point, that voice comes from a place of sound understanding.
Never before have I come across something, or someone for that matter, who could sum up this illness in a way that didn’t feel belittling or judgmental. It’s usually one or the other. To be perfectly honest, I’ve never made it past chapter two in any other self-help book for depression. I’ve found them either too patronising or lacking any kind of understanding.
This man, however, this author – I want to write him a damn thank-you letter or something! He really gets it. Really and truly.
“‘Oh, no! It’s Monday morning. I don’t want to get up. It’s too early, the week is too long, I’ve got too much work to do and I need a holiday. I feel so depressed!’
Every Monday morning starts this way and I refuse to rise until I am running late, but after a while I drag myself grumpily out of bed and start my week. I have never been good at Mondays and it takes a while for my mood to pick up through the day. It isn’t that I don’t like my job; I do, very much. It is just that I like rest and recreation even more and on a Monday morning, the next opportunity for these pleasures seems an awfully long way away.
Everyone has suffered spells of low mood of this type at some time or other and some people think that this means everyone has suffered from depression. It doesn’t, or at least, not clinical depression or depressive illness. The truth is that clinical depression is a horrible illness of which most of us, thank goodness, have not the faintest inkling. This is one of the many trials sufferers from the illness have to face: people looking at them knowingly and saying, ‘Oh, yes, I’ve often had that. I find the best thing is just to pull myself together and get busy.’
No, you haven’t, so stop making things worse with your ill-informed advice. If you really want to help, try to understand that sufferer of this illness is going through torment of a pretty awful kind.”
Anyone who has ever suffered from this illness will appreciate the approach of this book. It allows for reflection and it offers up more advice and support than I could ever have hoped for. If you find yourself faced with well-meaning but desperately clueless folk, or a therapist who pushes you too hard, too soon, or friends and family who want you to ‘pull yourself together’ – READ THIS.
Seriously. It will help.